Change is a part of life, and though it can bring excitement or sadness, much of the time change can be painful. Sometimes, changes are referred to as life transitions and include moving away for job or school, changes in employment, breaks in relationships, and any hugely altering events that involve birth, life-threatening illness, or death. As humans we don’t tend to react well to most changes; in fact, it is a part of life that change tends to be hard.
Usually it is not the change itself that presents the challenge; it is what you feel about it.
Friends and family who mean well may not know how to support you, and you may be frustrated as well, telling yourself, “I should get over this!” Even this struggle is part of the suffering in dealing with loss.
When you lose, you grieve. Grieving can feel like a blanket of sadness, a brooding anger, insistent denial, silent negotiation, and eventually, acceptance. Especially when you come to experience loss, there can be an overwhelming feeling of hurt and emptiness. Reality is challenged and moving through the day can be like a bad dream without the presence of your loved one.
