Conflict in relationships is perhaps the most integral part of the relationship.
When couples meet and explore the idea of spending the rest of their lives together; when coworkers, neighbors, and friends end up in the relationships that they are, or when family members find themselves in their roles, a few misconceptions can also occur. Examples:
- Our relationship will always be nice and smooth. (reasoning based on current positive emotions)
- If we are to be successful, we should not be in conflict. (Highly unrealistic expectations)
- If we talk about our anger or frustrations, we will lose the relationship. (Emotophobia, fear of emotions)
Most individuals in conflict report that the party they are in conflict with is at fault, causing the problems. The roles that individuals play in maintaining the conflict is often hidden to them.
Furthermore, individual mood problems such as depression and anxiety often get in the way of members of a couple to be sensitive to the needs of the relationship.